Reading about the 12th suicidal jump in Fuxconn factory in China, and have some thoughts of my own..
Only after coming to America, I learned these a few important lessons:
1. You don’t need to please everyone. It’s fine some people don’t like you, and you don’t need to like them either. The only thing really needed is mutual respect. It’s completely fine to be a loner, and enjoy life anyway. However, if you have an expectation that you should be popular and the focus everywhere you go, you are already setting yourself up for failure.
2. You don’t need to compare to anyone, either money, or score, or IQ, or anything/anyone around you or about yourself. Be true to yourself. The daily happiness you experience is uncomparable to anything others can ever have. Like what you like, and hate what you hate. Try to do more things that are good for you, for your family, for people who really care for you or surround you, and try to enjoy the process.
3. It may be common for the feeling "love" to happen, but it may not be as common as you would think for two people to both fall in love for each other. If you are really putting your heart into seeking it, it may happen once a year if you are lucky. And among those, much rarer can it last to reach some stage or grow healthily. So the advice is to cherish it when you get it. It’s indeed a miracle that happens to you and not something completely in your control.
4. Love yourself and your family like no others. To them it can really be unconditional love. You can have complaints, but no matter what wrong they have done, first assume their good intentions, then forgive them and try to teach them to get back to the right way or reach a compromise. Even when you are most angry about them, try to control your emotions and not to treat them like enemies. You only get that a few folks in the world if you are lucky.
5. It’s really important to have a regular sleeping pattern and life style. With the patterns regulated, then you start to wake up to senses of the real need of your body and your emotions. With an ever changing environment, you are too busy coping for changes and would ignore the deepest need of your own. This is a really important part of loving yourself.
6. There’s always exceptions to every rule, e.g, I am staying up late and writing this little thing. :) But that’s why it’s a guideline that everyone strives for but nobody can really reach or stay there forever. It’s the ultimate ideal world that everything happens according to rules. But does it mean we should not try to follow rules? No. In the long run the world is progressing towards the better and the trend is nonstoppable for anyone. So you’d better catch up.
I am thinking if those people who chose to kill themselves may not have chosen such a way if they also learned the lessons I have learned…